Support for the partner

Together, you will be working as a team as you decide the next steps of your joint path to parenthood. But as an individual, you will also be going through your own emotions.

Explore some ways to feel

more involved in the journey

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Open lines of communication

Make sure you talk to each other. The fertility process is not easy, and you will both benefit by having each other to lean on.

You may be experiencing a range of emotions that your partner may not be noticing. Try speaking to them about it or talk to friends, family, or even a healthcare professional if needed.

Listen (and be heard)

Listening goes both ways. Try to understand each other’s communication style and see if you can come to a middle ground, from the beginning.

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Be there (whatever that means for you both as a couple)

Agree on what is needed for your partner to be supported, whether that means helping more around the house or being more involved in the fertility process (i.e. helping to administer medications or joining for appointments).

Act as the guardian of ‘normal’ life

Be the gentle push to continue with activities that you both enjoy. It’s easy for couples to get lost in the fertility process, so try instating a ‘date night’ to make sure fertility treatments aren’t taking over your lives.

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